Saturday, June 12, 2010

Sometimes Life Really Sucks

Imagine you're 5 years old and your perfect world is shattered when your mom leaves.

Your dad provides you with a stable, loving home, and you stay in the same house and things mostly stay the same. Your big brother and you still do all the things you did before, and you go on to live much as you always did.

When you are 8, your mom gets married and has another baby. You still get to see her but you still live with dad in the same house and go to the same school. Dad has his mechanic's shop in your mom's parents yard, so you see lots of grandma and grandpa, and mom comes to visit, too.

Things aren't as perfect as they once were, but you are happy enough, and your dad is a wonderful father, providing you with lots of love and laughter.

Imagine you're 10 years old and dad leaves on his motorcycle to go to town to visit friends. A woman in an SUV turns in front of your dad's bike on the highway and he can't avoid her vehicle.

Imagine being fatherless when your father was your whole world.

21 comments:

Leah J. Utas said...

Very sad.
Does mom live fairly close?

the Bag Lady said...

Yeah, mom lives in town, so I imagine the kids will go live with her.

Gail said...

I can't imagine this at all.

the Bag Lady said...

Gail, it's one of the saddest things I've seen in a long time.

Hilary said...

This is a heartbreaker.. sounds like you must know them.

the Bag Lady said...

Yes, Hilary, he was a friend of ours. And his daughter is the sweetest child.
He will be sorely missed by the whole community.

solarity said...

My mother was a social worker with child welfare. That is just the kind of situation where she would be called out in the middle of the night. I feel the sadness.

Mary Anne in Kentucky

Hilary said...

I'm so sorry. :(

messymimi said...

One more reason to hug and say I love you every chance you get.

the Bag Lady said...

Mary Anne in Kentucky - it's a dreadful situation. Your mother must have been a strong woman in order to deal with that kind of thing regularly.

Hilary - thanks.

Messymimi - you are so right! You never know.

Sagan said...

*shudder*. That's really awful. I'm so sorry.

the Bag Lady said...

Sagan - it's terrible. I feel so sorry for those kids.

Charlotte said...

What a terrible loss! That poor little girl!! As a mother, my heart breaks for her. I hate to see any child suffer like that. My prayers for her and her familiy.

the Bag Lady said...

Thanks, Charlotte! It just breaks my heart, too.

JavaChick said...

So sorry to hear this! Very sad indeed. My heart goes out to those kids.

kcinnova said...

A heart-breaker on a Monday for this reader...
Life-shattering and heart-shattering for these kids. I wish I could hug them.

Gena said...

That's horrible. I can't imagine having the world shift that much at such a young age. I hope the kids get all the support they need to find stability.

the Bag Lady said...

Thanks, girls.
We went to the funeral yesterday and it was heart-wrenching. That poor little girl sobbed throughout the service, while her big brother sat in stoic silence. The community turned out in droves - the hall was so crowded, people were standing along the walls and at the back. It was an amazing show of support for the family.

CherylK said...

Oh my gosh...is that how it happened? I read the last post first. Life doesn't just suck sometimes...it's also not fair. I hope the mother turns out to be a better mother than I think she probably is.

the Bag Lady said...

Cheryl - I hope so, too. She seemed genuinely upset at the funeral.

CherylK said...

You know, there may just be a little more to it than we know...I think I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. Nobody's perfect. And she probably genuinely cared.